If you want to be a mother, all I can say is, “Be prepared to be tired for the next five years.” Being a new mother is kind of like being a Moonie at training camp. You’re run ragged. I used to fall asleep if I sat down–in concerts for example. A burst of loud music would wake me up temporarily. And if you end up as a single mother, be prepared to be exhausted. So why is there so little difference between children of single mothers and children of “intact homes”? Bella DePaulo explores the reasons. There is a difference, but it’s small.
I’ll give you a hint: it depends on the nature of the “intact” home.
Here’s another conclusion that I love: the happiest children come from homes with three adults. So a menage a trois or a multi-generational home or three single mothers together can be good for children. Read Ms. DePaulo’s article for the details.